Today I was talking with an old friend and she was chatting about people she knew who were getting married, she is of that age with those friends and like them she too is in a long-term relationship. Meanwhile I think... 'why? been there done that, wasn't too flash'
while part of me would like to be happily married, and I'd like to be in love... the effort involved is a little more than I'm currently prepared to make. although this is probably due to the fact that I have no one to make this effort with.
I definitely can't be a stay at home mum, in fact if any man who wants to be with me, wants kids, they are going to have to take the parental leave themselves. While being a parent definitely has it's great times, there are other times, where I don't know how I cope... still, I keep making it up and people keep living. I guess that is the goal - get children to adulthood with few permanent injuries and able to make some contribution to society.
Sunday, 26 October 2008
Tuesday, 21 October 2008
epiphany:
I want to roast your nuts... in honey.
At this point in time, the only thing that would taste better than Honey Roasted Peanuts, is a different king of nut. and that is when i stumbled upon my epiphany of my day: I am the kind of woman who wants to roast your nuts, in honey. mean and sweet - that's me - at least that is what I'd like to think is me.
now I have to stop eating the nuts.
At this point in time, the only thing that would taste better than Honey Roasted Peanuts, is a different king of nut. and that is when i stumbled upon my epiphany of my day: I am the kind of woman who wants to roast your nuts, in honey. mean and sweet - that's me - at least that is what I'd like to think is me.
now I have to stop eating the nuts.
Sunday, 19 October 2008
the men in my life...
I often think of man-jobs, as being the ones outdoors, the ones that take brute strength, like mowing the lawns, taking out the garbage, painting, weed whacking etc. and yet the two 'men' who help me most around the home are:
Handy Andy - keeps my floors clean and disinfected
Mr Muscle - now he cleans my oven like nothing else!! Stinks worse than a sweaty man, yet turns grimy ovens into easy wipe off cleanness :) and Mr Muscle also does the spray and wipe :)
It's kind of odd, that even in the kitchen and general cleaning (women's work?) men are very helpful indeed. It's just lucky that I was wearing pretty purple rubber gloves, or I may have started to think that I was doing yet another blokey activity. (I mowed and applied weed killer as well today)
While doing said mowing, I did contemplate WHY I'd like a man around. I really don't know, he would be useful - I hope. but I don't really need anyone, i do most things. I do tire of being responsible for everything, i'd like to pass the car stuff off to someone else, but I'd also probably get pissy as guys are very good at dismissing my intelligence and make me feel inadequate. So a companion is what I'd like best. I miss being able to come home and discuss the days events, no matter how trivial & get cuddles - adult cuddles.
Handy Andy - keeps my floors clean and disinfected
Mr Muscle - now he cleans my oven like nothing else!! Stinks worse than a sweaty man, yet turns grimy ovens into easy wipe off cleanness :) and Mr Muscle also does the spray and wipe :)
It's kind of odd, that even in the kitchen and general cleaning (women's work?) men are very helpful indeed. It's just lucky that I was wearing pretty purple rubber gloves, or I may have started to think that I was doing yet another blokey activity. (I mowed and applied weed killer as well today)
While doing said mowing, I did contemplate WHY I'd like a man around. I really don't know, he would be useful - I hope. but I don't really need anyone, i do most things. I do tire of being responsible for everything, i'd like to pass the car stuff off to someone else, but I'd also probably get pissy as guys are very good at dismissing my intelligence and make me feel inadequate. So a companion is what I'd like best. I miss being able to come home and discuss the days events, no matter how trivial & get cuddles - adult cuddles.
Saturday, 11 October 2008
Women like to complain - stop taking that away from us!
Actually I think the above heading is the reason why guys find us so complicated.
It's not that hard really - let us complain, don't fix it, then what we complain about won't change! you know where you stand, we know what we can complain about - easy. If it really is as bad as you may think we make it out to be, then we'll leave.
You see, about 10 years ago, there was a lot of women (especially in comedy) who would publicly complain about the lack of foreplay, orgasms, and generally being unsatisfied in bed.
Now you blokes (and i am beginning to be convinced they are now in the majority) are focussing on making sure we women orgasm before you, and while in theory this is all very gallant of you... I am left some what frustrated - yes that is right, I'm complaining about getting too much attention!
Sometimes, I just want a shag! please - just f*&k me! no foreplay, no oral, straight to the main course please. I will let you know if I'm not "in the mood". I don't even care if you only last a couple of minutes - time management is not necessarily a bad thing!
Of course this issue, could just be with me, but I find that if i have a 'good' orgasm, my body just wants to pass out, and my brain already has - this means that when you then go for the main course, I find it VERY hard to concentrate and give a decent effort.
Right now i have complained about that, i feel better already.
It's not that hard really - let us complain, don't fix it, then what we complain about won't change! you know where you stand, we know what we can complain about - easy. If it really is as bad as you may think we make it out to be, then we'll leave.
You see, about 10 years ago, there was a lot of women (especially in comedy) who would publicly complain about the lack of foreplay, orgasms, and generally being unsatisfied in bed.
Now you blokes (and i am beginning to be convinced they are now in the majority) are focussing on making sure we women orgasm before you, and while in theory this is all very gallant of you... I am left some what frustrated - yes that is right, I'm complaining about getting too much attention!
Sometimes, I just want a shag! please - just f*&k me! no foreplay, no oral, straight to the main course please. I will let you know if I'm not "in the mood". I don't even care if you only last a couple of minutes - time management is not necessarily a bad thing!
Of course this issue, could just be with me, but I find that if i have a 'good' orgasm, my body just wants to pass out, and my brain already has - this means that when you then go for the main course, I find it VERY hard to concentrate and give a decent effort.
Right now i have complained about that, i feel better already.
Monday, 6 October 2008
Multiple Minor Failures!
was making 'Mouse Traps' the other night (Cheese & Tomato sauce grilled on bread) when I pulled out the oven drawer, and a mouse ran out and under the fridge!! arrrr!!! This moment was one of those that I REALLY want a man around. take care of the rodents love... I'll do the laundry.
I coped though, i went out and bought poison - the thought of picking up a mouse - dead or alive - freaked me out. The thought that it might go away and die somewhere else, makes me happy.
In my doing of tasks this weekend, i thought it was time to replace the battery in the smoke alarm. only to discover there was no battery in it to start with! then when i was trying to afix it back on the roof (working - yah!) I broke the little roof fixer thing! arg! at least though i am a little safer with a smoke alarm on the mantel piece. Please can i have a man now to fix these things?!
Last night, after sending many flirty texts out, I had a visitor, although he didn't come over til about 11:30pm... and I had even dressed up for him, but we failed with any getting it ons! He even arrived with toys! we just sat around and yarned til 1:30am!!
god i am so tired today... and I am doing 2 peoples jobs at the moment as the family people at work have gone away for a funeral.
There is something else, i'm sure... but i forget - so there it is ;)
I coped though, i went out and bought poison - the thought of picking up a mouse - dead or alive - freaked me out. The thought that it might go away and die somewhere else, makes me happy.
In my doing of tasks this weekend, i thought it was time to replace the battery in the smoke alarm. only to discover there was no battery in it to start with! then when i was trying to afix it back on the roof (working - yah!) I broke the little roof fixer thing! arg! at least though i am a little safer with a smoke alarm on the mantel piece. Please can i have a man now to fix these things?!
Last night, after sending many flirty texts out, I had a visitor, although he didn't come over til about 11:30pm... and I had even dressed up for him, but we failed with any getting it ons! He even arrived with toys! we just sat around and yarned til 1:30am!!
god i am so tired today... and I am doing 2 peoples jobs at the moment as the family people at work have gone away for a funeral.
There is something else, i'm sure... but i forget - so there it is ;)
Thursday, 2 October 2008
Roll on Xmas!!
Firstly: the other night was great.
Currently I am planning my Xmas hols. I have a bit of time away from the Welly city, and am starting to look forward to that part.
I leave on the 19th, and will be returning around the 2nd or 3rd Jan. I expect to be in Oamaru from the night of the 19th through to the 27th, although i think my mum wants to take us to Dunedin one day to see some butterflies - I'm starting to think that may be an awesome opp to catch up with an old Uni friend - Fi... I'll have to FB her :)
In Ommas there is someone who I would like to catch up with, however I haven't had any contact with him for about 10-15 years, and about 15-20kg!! And I can't tell my mum. this makes me a little nervous, but if I DONT call him and see if he wants to catch up for a drink or coffee, then I'll regret it. I know i can't loose 20kg in 3 months... but I should be able to loose 5! if i didn't like food so much! maybe if i warn him I've gotten fat...arrrrrrrrr I'm thinking of calling about a week before I go down... It may not even be his phone number.
blast the horrible romantic notions that he might whisk with me away to chch, when i go up there after Xmas, and hole up in a scoady motel room where we re-ignite the passion we had during 6th form! *** oh dear god! I am a sad sad woman!?***
anyway; getting past that notion, i was also thinking of catching up with other uni friends still in CHCH - the ones who have settled down with their wives and children and nice dependable jobs... I should email them and see if they will be around, as well as my more recent CHCH and other southern friends. New Year shall be spent attending the annual KAOS party - I have already told people I will be there, so there i must be. - my little sis is giving me some duty free, so it should be a great night!
At least when I get back to welly, i can have over a week of rest and about 3 weeks of peace :)
Currently I am planning my Xmas hols. I have a bit of time away from the Welly city, and am starting to look forward to that part.
I leave on the 19th, and will be returning around the 2nd or 3rd Jan. I expect to be in Oamaru from the night of the 19th through to the 27th, although i think my mum wants to take us to Dunedin one day to see some butterflies - I'm starting to think that may be an awesome opp to catch up with an old Uni friend - Fi... I'll have to FB her :)
In Ommas there is someone who I would like to catch up with, however I haven't had any contact with him for about 10-15 years, and about 15-20kg!! And I can't tell my mum. this makes me a little nervous, but if I DONT call him and see if he wants to catch up for a drink or coffee, then I'll regret it. I know i can't loose 20kg in 3 months... but I should be able to loose 5! if i didn't like food so much! maybe if i warn him I've gotten fat...arrrrrrrrr I'm thinking of calling about a week before I go down... It may not even be his phone number.
blast the horrible romantic notions that he might whisk with me away to chch, when i go up there after Xmas, and hole up in a scoady motel room where we re-ignite the passion we had during 6th form! *** oh dear god! I am a sad sad woman!?***
anyway; getting past that notion, i was also thinking of catching up with other uni friends still in CHCH - the ones who have settled down with their wives and children and nice dependable jobs... I should email them and see if they will be around, as well as my more recent CHCH and other southern friends. New Year shall be spent attending the annual KAOS party - I have already told people I will be there, so there i must be. - my little sis is giving me some duty free, so it should be a great night!
At least when I get back to welly, i can have over a week of rest and about 3 weeks of peace :)
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